Are you about to be dumped?

Do you feel like your relationship is secure and you are probably headed towards a forever? Read between the lines to understand just where your relationship is heading and whether it's towards the dumps or not...

Only wants to hang out with other friends
Has he/she been avoiding meeting you alone? Does every date you set up with each other end up in having someone or the other joining you? If he/she is only keen on meeting with groupies, it might be dicey territory.

Avoids calls
If your girl or guy has been avoiding your calls and messages, its time to start thinking. You cannot let your partner take you for granted. He/she might be doing this to give you a hint.

No foreseeable commitment
Does he/she regularly avoid talks of a future or some solid foundation for your relationship? If they don't want to be with you long-term, talks of a future will always be avoided.

Forgets to keep dates
Is this a regular occurrence? If your boyfriend/ girlfriend is forgetting to keep dates which you fixed a few days back and spoke excitedly about, be warned.

Where's the PDA?
Is your supposed better half suddenly conscious of displaying their affection in public? Has hand-holding and cheek pecking become a thing of the past? This might be one of the first warning signs you should pay heed to.

5 Things a man will never ever tell you

There are somethings that a man will never tell you. But these things would help you understand your partner better and improve your relationship. Read on to know a few of his secrets...

- We want you to like our friends, but not love them: A man would want his girlfriend to

 get along with his friends, but he may not like you hanging out with them all the time. Also, don't make statements professing your love for his friends.

- We don't like it when you go gaga over anyone else: Be it Brad Pitt or Salman Khan, we don't like it when you drool over their bulging biceps or six-pack abs. Don't be surprised if we start praising Jessica Alba or Katrina Kaif out of the blue.

- We worry that you will find someone better: It's not just women who worry about losing their guy to some hotter chick, even men suffer from pangs of insecurity. Just that they are better at hiding it than most women.

- We don't cuddle hoping for sex... well not always: It's not just women who like to just hold hands or relax in her partners' arm. A guy will never admit to this but he loves cuddling too. It doesn't mean that he doesn't have naughty things on his mind, but there are some exceptions to the rule.

- Don't expect us to tell you what we do on a boys' night out: Whether it's girls, sports, cars or bikes, don't expect a guy to reveal any of the things that he has discussed with his buddies. It's probably better that way!

Anger management: 10 tips to tame your temper

Do you fume when someone cuts you off in traffic? Does your blood pressure rocket when your child refuses to cooperate? Anger is a normal and even healthy emotion — but it's important to deal with it in a positive way. Uncontrolled anger can take a toll on both your health and your relationships.

Ready to get your anger under control? Start by considering these 10 anger management tips.

1. Think before you speak

In the heat of the moment, it's easy to say something you'll later regret. Take a few moments to

collect your thoughts before saying anything — and allow others involved in the situation to do the same.

2. Once you're calm, express your anger

As soon as you're thinking clearly, express your frustration in an assertive but non confrontational way. State your concerns and needs clearly and directly, without hurting others or trying to control them.

3. Get some exercise

Physical activity can help reduce stress that can cause you to become angry. If you feel your anger escalating, go for a brisk walk or run, or spend some time doing other enjoyable physical

activities.

4. Take a timeout

Timeouts aren't just for kids. Give yourself short breaks during times of the day that tend to be

stressful. A few moments of quiet time might help you feel better prepared to handle what's ahead without getting irritated or angry.

5. Identify possible solutions

Instead of focusing on what made you mad, work on resolving the issue at hand. Does your

 child's messy room drive you crazy? Close the door. Is your partner late for dinner every night? Schedule meals later in the evening — or agree to eat on your own a few times a week. Remind yourself that anger won't fix anything and might only make it worse.

Empty nest syndrome: Tips for coping

If your last child is all grown up and about to leave home — or he or she has already moved out — you might be experiencing some mixed emotions. Understand why empty nest syndrome happens and what you can do about it.

What's empty nest syndrome and why do some parents experience it?

Empty nest syndrome isn't a clinical diagnosis. Instead, empty nest syndrome is a phenomenon

in which parents experience feelings of sadness and loss when the last child leaves home.

Although you might actively encourage your children to become independent, the experience of letting go can be painful. You might find it difficult to suddenly have no children at home who need your care. You might miss being a part of your children's daily lives — as well as the constant companionship. You might also worry intensely about your children's safety and whether they'll be able to take care of themselves on their own. You might struggle with the transition if your last child leaves the nest a little earlier or later than you expected — or at a time different from when you did. If you have only one child or strongly identify with your role as parent, you might have a particularly difficult time adjusting to an empty nest.

What's the impact of empty nest syndrome?

In the past, research suggested that parents dealing with empty nest syndrome experienced a profound sense of loss that might make them vulnerable to depression, alcoholism, identity

crisis and marital conflicts.

However, recent studies suggest that an empty nest can also provide parents with many benefits. When the last child leaves home, parents have a new opportunity to reconnect with each other, improve the quality of their marriage and rekindle interests for which they previously might not have had time

How can I cope with empty nest syndrome?

If you're experiencing feelings of loss due to empty nest syndrome, take action. For example:

• Accept the timing. Avoid comparing your child's timetable to your own personal experience. Instead, focus on what you can do to help your child succeed when he or she does leave home.
• Keep in touch. You can continue to be close to your children even when you live apart. Make an effort to maintain regular contact through visits, phone calls, emails, texts or video chats.
• Seek support. If you're having a difficult time dealing with an empty nest, lean on loved ones and other close contacts for support. Share your feelings. If you feel depressed, consult your doctor or a mental health provider.
• Stay positive. Thinking about the extra time and energy you might have to devote to your marriage or personal interests after your last child leaves home might help you adapt to this major life change.

Can I prevent empty nest syndrome?

If your last child is about to leave home and you're worried about empty nest syndrome, plan ahead. Look for new opportunities in your personal and professional life. Keeping busy or taking on new challenges at work or at home can help ease the sense of loss that your child's departure might cause.

New Top 10 List: Your Top Royal Wedding Gowns

New Top 10 List: Your Top Royal Wedding Gowns

As I write this, we are fast approaching this year’s Big Royal Wedding in Luxembourg (October 19th and 20th, don't tell me your calendars aren't already marked). To get us in the proper frame of mind, I have for you a new countdown with the results of my last informal and utterly unscientific poll of you kids: What are the best royal wedding gowns?

Some of you took me up on my challenge to determine what really constituted the best royal wedding gown: is it timeless? Does it feature family history? Is it unique? Well suited to the bride? Some other X factor? Others didn’t, selecting instead their personal favorites, or things they themselves would love to wear. Some dresses received nods on the basis of obvious overwhelming happiness or a sweet love story, and that’s okay too – if it makes you smile, that’s worth something.

I tallied everything up no matter what the reasoning, so this is 100% your list. In the end, I really enjoyed the mix of reactions, and I think it’s given us a good list: these gowns sit squarely in the middle of logic and affection, and that feels right.

UPDATE: And here's the full list...

10. Princess Carolina of Bourbon-Parma

 

                                                               and

10. Queen Margrethe of Denmark 
(a tie!)

9. Lady Sarah Chatto 

8. Princess Charlene of Monaco

7. The Duchess of Cornwall

  
6. Princess Margaret, Countess of Snowdon

5. The Duchess of Cambridge

4. Crown Princess Mette-Marit of Norway 

3. Princess Máxima of the Netherlands 

2. Princess Grace of Monaco 

1. Crown Princess Victoria of Sweden 

How To Deal With Dominating Partner  

fear of lossing someone you love is a common fear.(or somehing happening to someone you love.) These fears comes from a great love. The fear is love. But once you realize the love, and take action on that, there is no point to the fear. Fear is immobilizing, love is energizing.

Remember, the biological reason for fear is to get us to act, after the action, the fear is pointless. (Worse than pointless, as it hurts you.)

In this article, I am going to share something that will hopefully change this fear. At first, we fear losing something because everything is impermanent. Everything changes. But there is one thing important we neglect when we fear impermanence. Here it is:

Even Loss is Impermanent

This, too, passes.

Old friends reconnect, forgive. A late mother’s adages are remembered. Memories of connection come to our minds. And many of us believe in an afterlife where we will join our loved ones again.

In this tangled web of life, we are all connected. Our minds, hearts and souls are in sync with the world around us. When we are not connected to that world–when we feel separate–it is often expressed in mental health problems.

Anxiety, anger and depression come from a sense of disconnection. Anxietymakes us afraid of where we are are going; that we could lose something, miss an opportunity, or be inadequate. It makes us fear losing someone we love. We have to think we are separate, or different, to feel this way. Depression makes us feel bereft, isolated, left out, unloved and like we don’t belong anywhere–separate. Anger comes from a sense of injustice that happened to us–it stems from an “us-them” mentality.

All of these are in our mind. We create a world where we are separate and don’t belong, and victimized and then we feel worse and worse. Where, in reality, this makes us blind to the love we do have in our lives, blind to the people who care about us, and blind to our own contributions in life. This is lose-lose.

Take Action. Reduce Fear

There are many ways to take action instead of being immobilized by fear. For example: spend time with the person, tell them you love them, show them you love them, keep them company, offer them help, and thank them. All of these actions will help you feel more connected and lessen the fear.

Fear of Losing Someone You Love

If we remembered that we are connected, our hearts would warm and our grief would ease. When we bring to mind the unbreakable bonds between us and a loved one, as well as the influence those have had on our life, the fear of loving someone you love would decrease.

People are afraid it is too late. It is never too late. Even if someone dies–the relationship–the influence goes on, and so we can do something. As long as the “relationship” is there, we can mold it, and make new meaning around it. (Meaning that includes connection rather than loss. Meaning that includes positive self identity of love and caring.)

This makes all the difference in how we feel: bereft or connected.