Is It OK to Lie to Your Girlfriend?

What causes guys to lie to their girlfriends? Deception complicates your life in a big way. Yet, it is the method of operation for many guys. They don't even think about it, they simply react to uncomfortable situations by allowing their best friend Denial to respond.

When you build a relationship with a girl that is based on deception, she has an unrealistic idea of who you really are and what she can count on from you and the relationship. She is dating an illusion. Once that is stripped away it always brings great disappointment.

If you can become comfortable with whom you really are as a person and lose the self doubt, you will be comfortable with understanding that you can still be her knight in shining armor even with chinks in your armor. When you know this, lying will not be an option for you. This is a self destructive practice that devalues the man you really are. With every lie you tell you arrive one step closer to exposure, an embarrassingly bad ending.

Look closely at the situations in your relationship where you decided lying was a better response than the truth. A girlfriend will not become a serious relationship that is lasting until you can be comfortable with the truth.

If you lied to cover cheating, she is not really a girlfriend. Whether you are dating or married, cheating is the first sign that you have already left the relationship. Just say so and go. You'll both be better for it.

If you lied to impress her and felt it was necessary to do so, she may be too shallow to see your tremendous potential, the hero that lies within you. If this is the case, look within to see why you even want to be the boyfriend of someone who cannot be thrilled with the real you.

If you are in the habit of lying when you get caught in the age old 'no way to win' questions like "Do I look fat in this dress," or "Do you think I am prettier than... ," you need to practice how you say things rather than what you say. The answer to "Do I look fat in this dress" can be, "I really love the way you look in... " You avoid lying while helping her to look her very best.

Being deceptive degrades you. You feel it and soon, the whole world will hear about it when your lie is discovered. If you need to lie to your girlfriend, you're not really in a relationship. Relationships require trust to grow. You may make better friends than lovers. If your girlfriend cannot accept the truth it is either because your behavior will end the relationship or she is not the right woman for you. If it's because of your behavior with other women, man up and leave. If she requires more than you can give to be impressed with being your gal, your relationship is already over, you just have not accepted that.

The answer to the question, "Is it OK to lie to my girlfriend?" is no. When lying is required, you don't have a real relationship. Polish the chinks in your armor and be a real knight!